10 Myths about meeting women online.

“If you you want to Seduce Women Online, don’t believe these 10 meaningless internet dating myths”

Some guys use online personals to meet that special someone, other guys want only to seduce women online. In either case, it’s important to dispel some meaningless myths some guys have about meeting women online.

Myth #1: Meeting women Online Isn’t Like
Meeting Women In The Real World

Duh, of course it’s different.

Meeting women at church is different than meeting women at a bar also. Fact of the matter is women react and respond differently online than offline.

To the guys that think meeting women online isn’t real, It BECOMES real the second you talk to the woman on the phone and even more so when you meet her in person.

Myth #2: You’re Using The Internet Because
You Can’t Meet Women Anywhere Else

Perhaps in some way.  But does it REALLY matter where you meet someone? Isn’t it about the quality of the person you meet?

If you think meeting women online is a crutch, then if you *only* meet women in bars, that’s a crutch too.

Meeting women online is one of many ways to meet women, much like meeting
women at social functions.

There is however a different set of rules you need to adhere to when working in those environments.

Let me explain…

If you’re meeting women online, you can’t use the same techniques you use
when you’re meeting a woman in person at say… a social function.

They don’t work.

Just like playing cards… Different games have a different set of rules.  Poker has a different set of rules than blackjack.

Well meeting women online has a different set of rules than meeting women in
bars/clubs.

At a social function you might introduce yourself by saying Hi.  Then the
conversation just flows. (Hopefully)

However if you emailed a woman Hi odds are 99.5% that you’re not getting a
response back.

The rules are different. But the bottom line is meeting women online is just
another way to meet women.

Myth #3: Every Woman On The Sites Has
Some Sort Of Problem

HAHA. This one has a special place in my heart.  If you’ve listened to me speak or heard my interview with David DeAngelo, I talk about a few of the ‘oddball’ experiences I’ve had.

And trust me, going out with 398+ women, you’re going to find a few interesting women.

But seriously, I’ve dated many women and 9 times out of 10 they’re great people and normal. No 3rd arm or hunchback.

I actually think its so funny when something like this happens because it’s
entertaining.  I know I’m not going to get with the girl, and I wasn’t expecting her To be as (ugly/fat/psycho) as she is - but hey, it gives you a FANTASTIC story to talk about when you meet other women.

Myth #4: You Lose Communication Skills
This is the farthest thing from being true. If anything your communication skills will greatly increase because you learn the mechanics of getting to know a lot of people in a short timeframe.

Ever hear of the saying: Use it, or loose it.

If you’re using something (your communication skills) then how on earth can you loose it?  If anything you get better at doing it.

Consider taking micro-steps.

This is the exact process I used when learning online dating… There was NO
information about how to succeed with online dating 4 years ago, so I took all the seduction, psychology, persuasion, NLP, direct response knowledge and dating strategies I had learned and started testing and tweaking –  and applying them *specifically* to meeting women online, which had NEVER been done before.

Start by getting women to respond back to your email, then how to get their
number, then how to talk on the phone etc.

Don’t you think after speaking to 20 women online and via the phone you’d be
more comfortable talking to women in person?

Myth #5: It’s a Numbers Game
DUH.  Of course it’s a numbers game! So is meeting women in bars, clubs, the bookstores. The more women you meet the more likely you are to get the result you want.

Now let me stop here and make something totally clear:

I believe that every guy out there would love to have 1 great woman.

Thing is, in order to be with one, you need to date, usually a lot of women. So, you go to bars/clubs and social events.

How long would it take you to get, say… 20 dates?

Online you can simply send a few emails to women who fit what you’re looking
for and within a much shorter time frame PRESTO! You’ve got 20 dates lined up within a couple of weeks.

No approaching women, no rejection. Nada.

When I first started online dating, I had just broken up with my girlfriend of 4 years. We lived together for 3 and I was about 26 or so.

All the things I wanted in a woman I had to re-evaluate because what I thought I wanted I had yet I wasn’t happy.  Sometimes the things you want, when you have them you find out it wasn’t what you REALLY wanted.

It was what you THOUGHT you wanted.

I had to figure out what I really wanted from a woman and a relationship. Thank god for the Internet because I was able to meet a HUNDREDS of women in such a short amount of time and I started to really figure out what I wanted.

So what would you choose?

Going to a bar/club where the women are on the pedestal? Where they’ve got the attitudes? (You know what I’m talking about)

Or would you rather choose to meet women where you know they’ve spent the time on their profiles, photos and paying money each month because they really want to meet a guy?

It’s a no-brainer.  It’s easier to meet women online.

Myth #6: Internet Dating doesn’t work,
period. I’ve tried everything, Women Never
Respond, and You’re wasting your time.

Reality is - you suck at online dating. No ifs, and/ or buts.

I will quote you with the famous words of Henry Ford -

“Whether you think you can, or you think
you can not… You are Right!”

I hate to be so blunt, but if you were one of my friends, I’d tell you the same exact thing. There are more women online at any one time than in ANY nightclub in the world.

By the time you’re done reading this, over 44,600 women will have logged into their online personals account to check their email.

44,600.  That’s a staggering amount.

Do you know of any club in the world with that many single, attractive and
available women?

Myth #7: Hot Women On The Internet Are
Online Just To Get Attention, And Never Have
Any Intention Of Meeting You.

Newsflash, most hot women out there are validation queens. They live for it.

Now with that in mind, if you don’t know what you’re doing and come off
like every other one of the 865 emails sheÕs gotten in the last 2 weeks then yeah, you will never meet a hot woman.

You need to come off different and use a different game plan.

But if you do know what you’re doing, and come off different using the simple
strategies I teach you in the Insider Internet Dating program, you’ll have an
unfair advantage over every other guy.

I’ve personally used this program to meet and date a Playboy Playmate, NBA
dancers, Hawaiian Tropic swimsuit models and more.

And I’m just a regular guy like you. There’s nothing you can’t do if you knew
what I know.

Myth #8: Internet Dating Limits Your
Choices.

Hogwash. Let’s see. Just on myspace alone there are 35 million members… and
it’s growing at about 3.5 million members a month. Do a search on match and
you’ll find hundreds of women in your area dying to meet you.

Shall I go on?

And that’s just from 2 dating sites!

Point is, there are literally hundreds of dating sites out there and if you think that limits your choices more than going to a club with only 300 people (men and women) then you should consider taking a math class.

Myth #9:It’s Too Time Consuming.
Too time consuming? Maybe if you don’t know what you’re doing or chatting on
IM all day with women.

If you went out to a bar/club how many women could you speak with in 1 night?
5? 10?

You’re limited because you can only talk with 1 woman at a time. Online you can email women in a matter of 2 minutes (using the templates my program) then
you’re done.

The whole point of the Insider Internet Dating is to minimize the time you spend looking for and emailing women while maximizing your results!

When you systemize everything and learn my complete plan you spend less than 1
hour a week and get more results than you’ve ever imagined possible.

Myth #10: It Creates excuses For Guys To Not
Meet Women In Real Life.

Can’t you say the same thing for meeting women only in clubs?

Who cares where or how you meet them?  The end result is the only thing that
matters.  And the end result is being on a date with a real woman you’re interested in.

Meeting women is like investing…

You don’t put all your eggs into 1 basket.  With an investment portfolio, you’ve got some low risk stocks, some mutual funds, bonds, some high risk stock, some futures etc.

Meeting women is the same thing.  With meeting women you’ve got bars/clubs,
daytime, social events, the Internet etc.

You do a little bit of everything to give yourself every opportunity possible.

With the Internet you’re dealing with women who are telling you they’re interested in meeting guys and are willing to pay to do so!

Meeting women online, like real estate works off the concept of LEVERAGE.

With online dating you are leveraging TIME, not money.  You are able to meet more women in less time than any other way of meeting women.

You can send out 100 emails in a matter of a couple of days and within a week,
end up with 40 phone numbers.

It’s possible. I’ve done it month in and month out, consistently and predictably for the last 4 years.

You don’t have to overcome the woman’s friends like you do in a club setting, you already know she’s single, you know what she is looking for and there is thousands of women on these sites.

Get her attention  — Call to action Ð Phone  call  Ð Meet up

How simple is that. ThatÕs the short version of how easy it is to meet women
online.

Oh, By The Way…

Listen, what good is getting a woman to respond to your e-mail if you can’t get her phone number?

What good is getting her phone number if you don’t know how to carry on a
conversation and get her to agree to go out on a date with you?

What good is getting a date if you don’t know how to get to hold her hand,
kiss her (or get her to desire you)?

You get my drift.

Having a killer profile — but no killer strategies when sending out e-mails or making the first phone call or going on the first date — can lead to incongruence, which equals dating failure.

You gotta know what to do every step of the way.  And it’s easy when you have
my Insider Internet Dating program.

Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals — using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating ‘routine’ that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at www.insiderinternetdating.com.

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