7 killer tips to help you write emails women read and respond to

30/10/2008 by admin.

“These 7 email tips make getting an Online Booty Call a Piece of Cake”

According to various internet statistics, there are over 50 million active subscribers to dating services. That’s just in the U.S. alone.

If you’re single and looking for an online booty call, this is something you absolutely should NOT overlook. Meeting women online is the ‘in’ thing to do these days. Everyone is doing it.

On the surface it seems rather easy…

Post a quick profile, add a few pictures, do a search for some hotties, find a few then fire off a few emails and line up your dates. Unfortunately it’s not quite that easy.

Arguably the biggest hurdle most guys have to overcome is that very FIRST email. I get emails daily from guys asking exactly what they should put in their emails so they get read and responded to.

Because of my direct marketing background, and being a fanatical tester of what works and what doesn’t work, I’ve been able to isolate several key factors which should always be present when you’re communicating to a woman online.

More about those in a minute…

Before we get to them, let’s talk about something even more important to your success in writing compelling emails.

WHAT’S GOING ON IN HER HEAD?

No, I’m not asking you to read her mind… Not that you could, but what I am asking you to do is to put yourself in HER shoes.

Attractive women are getting BOMBARDED with emails each and every day, more often than not these women are getting the same lame emails guys send.

The more successful you are at putting yourself in a woman’s shoes who is using the internet to meet guys, the more successful you’ll be in getting women to respond to your emails.

It sounds simple but it’s true.

The more sensitive you are to what she’s going through, the more persuasive you can be, the more rapport you can have with her, and consequently, the more she’ll trust and agree with you.

Put yourself in the shoes of a woman who’s being bombarded with emails daily from men.

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When you’re trying to spark interest with a woman you meet online, you need to create
rapport, a great way is to ‘make yourself like her’.

What common interests do you share?

Was there something in her profile that caught your eye?

You shouldn’t forget that with email, people generally see it as more private/personal
than your profile… people know that a profile is written for everyone to see.

When you send an email, the perception is that it should be personal, because emails
typically are personal in nature. Therefore, use this to your advantage.

It’s absolutely critical you write as if you’re speaking to ONLY HER. Don’t speak AT her,
or TO her, speak with her, just like you’re talking to a friend.

Some keys to emails that get women to reply:

1. PERSONALIZE

You MUST personalize every message you send out. Women have a BS detector and
can smell a copy and paste email a mile away. Even if you just use her screen name
1 time, make it personal.

Talk about her profile, let her know in some way that you actually READ her profile.

2. COMPLIMENT

Compliment her on something you find interesting about her or her profile (you did read it, didn’t you?) … something you’re intrigued about. Remember the best way to get someone interested in you is to become interested in them first.

I have this 2 step system I use which does just that called:

3. ENGAGE & EXPAND.

Rather than tell you all about it, here’s a quick example:

To ENGAGE, you can say something such as:

‘I read you’re into _____ Thats really cool.’

Then you EXPAND on it by adding:

‘I’ve always been interested in _____, how long have you been into it?’

This is very simple, but VERY VERY effective.

4. AN INTRIGUING SUBJECT LINE

What’s the very first thing a woman sees when you send her an email?

No, it’s not your photo, no it’s not your email… it’s your subject line. What you place in that subject line is critical to your email even getting open. If your email doesn’t get opened, all that time you spent to craft that killer email was all for nothing.

The subject line should create intrique and almost force the woman to want to open it… because it’s compelling.

Women will tend to open emails if they’re more conversational in style and more personal, rather than generic.

5. HOW TO ENSURE YOUR EMAIL GETS READ

One thing I do almost all the time is to look through your own inbox and seeing the subject lines which stand out to you. Which ones capture your attention IMMEDIATELY?

In your subject lines mention something unique about her profile. For instance… If she’s into shooting pool, your subject could be something like:

‘Hey [her screen name], so you think you can shoot pool?’

“pool shark?’

6. WHAT DO YOU SAY FIRST?

The first sentance is arguably the part most guys have the biggest problems with. If the
subject is the most important part of the email itself, then the 1st sentence is the most important part of the body.

The goal of your first sentence should be to introduce yourself and to estabilish rapport. Start by saying something you’d say to a friend.

Make sure your emails are written in a conversational style… like you’re emailing
a friend of yours. You can ALWAYS tell when someone’s sending a copy and paste email… because the email is usually very ambiguous and says nothing specific about that woman’s profile.

7. THEN WHAT?

You have an intriguing subject line, an inviting first sentance, used some humor in
the email, and now you’ve got to seal the deal.

This is where you need to insert a CTA. This stands for Call To Action. Simply put, what
do you want the woman to do as a result of reading the email?

Answer that question and you have your CTA.

I have a rule with each step in my system: Every step only has ONE CTA. This is where most guys mess things up. They give women too many options, or none at all.

Tell the woman what you want her to do next, you can say something like…

‘Read the email and get back to me…’

‘I’ll be looking for your response’

‘let’s see your answers to the questions…’

There you have it. 7 KILLER tips to help you write introduction emails women read and respond to.

Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals — using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating ‘routine’ that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at http://www.insiderinternetdating.com/

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6 Things You Should Never Say In Any Of Your E-mails

30/10/2008 by admin.

“What 6 things every guy ought to know about getting an Online Booty Call.”

Want an online booty call? Here are the 6 THINGS YOU SHOULD *NEVER* SAY IN ANY OF YOUR EMAILS. (… unless you don’t want her to reply.)

EMAIL BLUNDER #1:

‘I just came across your profile’

This line has been used over and over and over again, and its dumb.

DUH! Hey genius, of course you just came across her profile, otherwise you’d never be
able to email her!

This line is lame, worn out and insincere. The BS detector goes off from a mile away with this one.

EMAIL BLUNDER #2:

‘I figure that I probably won’t hear from you, but…’

Confidence is the #1 thing which attracts women, Therefore, if you’re doing THE EXACT OPPOSITE of the thing which attracts women, you’re doing what?

REPELLING women away… usually in droves.

EMAIL BLUNDER #3:

‘I’m not what you’re looking for, but…’

Uh genius, then why are you even writing?

If you’re going to write a women who’s looking for something you’re not, do it with confidence. If you don’t make it a big deal, odds are she won’t.

You can’t email a woman thinking you’re not going to get a response. It’s the law of attraction… you keep focusing on not getting a response, guess what you end up getting?

You won’t get a response.

ALWAYS FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRED OUTOME.

ALWAYS.

EMAIL BLUNDER #4:

‘If you decide not to write me back, can you please take a minute and tell me why.’

Yeah ok. This one REALLY *wreaks* of desperation.

If you are guilty of sending this in any emails, put the book down, look yourself in the mirror, and repeat:

‘I will not be a wuss anymore.’ Then go ahead and slap yourself upside your head for being a dumbass.

Sending this to a woman IMMEDIATELY conveys you don’t have confidence, experience or understand how to spark attraction, and will almost guarantee you won’t get an online booty call.

Don’t make things harder for yourself by putting this line in your emails.

EMAIL BLUNDER #5:

‘Would you like to join our swingers group sometime?’

Ok, for real, if I even have to explain why this is so wrong… forget it.

Meeting women online is not for you. I can’t tell you why right now, but someday you’ll
understand… seriously, it’s for the best.

(… UNLESS you’re sending those emails on some ‘adult’ site, but even then — what do you think EVERY OTHER GUY IS SENDING?)

just a little something for you to think about…

EMAIL BLUNDER #6:

‘I wanted to see if there was more to you than just another pretty face’

This line wreaks of BS. Sad thing is so many guys are STILL using it.

If you’re STILL using this line in your emails, you are WAY BEHIND what many of my students are doing … and THAT’S the reason why you’re not getting the responses you’re expecting.

This line was made famous by one of my mentors David DeAngelo, and has probably been used more times than a cheap street hooker.

Getting an online booty call is easy if you just avoid these 6 things in your emails.

Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals — using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating ‘routine’ that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at http://www.insiderinternetdating.com/

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5 Steps to a Great First E-mail

30/10/2008 by admin.

“These 5 little known email hacks make it much easier to Meet Women Online”

There is one question my inbox gets filled with each week, one question I get asked over and over again from men all over the world who want to meet women online… it is:

HOW CAN YOU CREATE EMAILS THAT GET WOMEN TO RESPOND?

You’ll find out soon enough.

Today I’m going to show you exactly how it’s done. In just a minute I’m going to give you A 5-STEP FORMULA you can use to create a killer 1st email that will get you more responses than you know what to do with.

Think about this.

Most guys think their picture is the most important part of meeting women online, however nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, your picture is important… but the most important part of meeting women online is not your pictures, it’s your 1st email. If you can’t get women to respond to your emails, it doesn’t matter how great your pictures are. If you DO know how to get women to respond to your emails, then you can meet women online anytime you want.

So, the question becomes how do you get a woman interested enough to respond to you?

I’ll give you my take on it.

In most cases women are getting bombarded with DOZENS of emails each day and from what you know most of the emails are horrible and end up being deleted.

Did you know this?

I didn’t think so.

The truth is until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either.

What I’m about to teach you will (hopefully) change how you interact with women online forever and give you the power to meet the type of women you are interested in.

HERE’S TWO THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WRITING EMAILS

1. Make sure your email is NOTHING like the ones you’ve
gotten if you set up a ‘Recon’profile. Knowing what most
guys are writing will help you avoid the most common pitfalls.
Remember its all about the recon.

2. You need to create a template of something which worked
before. (The word ‘model’ might come to mind) you’re essentially
going to model something which already works, then slightly
‘tweak’ it to fit you.

As you know I’ve got this down to a science. In my program I actually show you step-by-step (in video) exactly how I craft these emails. The program contains 8 email templates for all situations, and I routinely include more updates as I test and develop new ones.

I’m going to let you in on a big secret and show you how I create these email templates right here, right now in this email. I told you I was going to give you a 5-step formula for writing killer emails.

Heres the way I’d do it:

1. Introduction

You want to make her seem like she might not be ‘average’ but you’re not sure about it. I mean lets face it, what girl wants to be AVERAGE?

“Hey, my name is ____ I read your profile, thought you seemed kind of interesting, but I’m not too sure about you… yet.”

2. Mention something funny about all the emails she’s getting. (If you set up the fake profile, use the emails as the jokes.)

This is why I wanted you to set up the fake profile. Once you get all these emails from OTHER guys, you’ll be armed to the T with material to use here. There IS a method to the madness!

3. Mention something about her profile you found interesting

This is where you’re going to *customize* the template each time for each girl. She’ll assume you sent an email just for her. If you don’t customize the email 9 times out of 10 you’ll get busted.

4. Ask her a question about something. she’ll respond essentially qualifying herself to you.

Like: favorite type of food, favorite outdoor activity, favorite music…. anything to get her involved and to answer.

5. CLOSE - Tell her something like:

You seem cool and interesting and you’d like to get together for a drink sometime.

Thats it.

Remember that.

You just saw a simple 5-step process you can use right now to get more responses than ever. The key to making this work for you is to rewrite this the way you speak. If you don’t there’s a ‘disconnect’ from the emails to the person and when she finally meets you, she’ll be expecting someone else.

That is the reason why giving you something specific won’t work. When I did just straight up swiped David d’s emails, yes I got responses and everything went fine when we were ON-line — but guess what happened when we went OFF-line?

When I met these women they were all expecting someone else — NOT me!

I used to hear the women say: ‘I was expecting you to be different…’

(Yeah thats what you want to hear when you meet someone you may be interested in. NOT!)

Guess what?

I blew it with each and every one of them until I realized that I had to take the material and make it my own. Once I did, my results went through the roof!

I want you to do the same as well. Take what I teach you and make it your own. Turn it into your own personality, add your own words and add your own flair to it.

THEN you will start to enjoy a massive amount of success meeting women online.

Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals sites — using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating ‘routine’ that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at http://www.insiderinternetdating.com

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